What if future historians use social media to recount our history? Not a very accurate picture indeed! We hold back on posting truth to avoid being negative – how many times do we read a post about someone when our experience may be incredibly different? It is appropriate, I believe, to hold back, but what if these lies are taken as truths because we do not speak out?
It is indeed a tricky situation. In the Gospel this Sunday we hear that we are called to ‘love one another’. What does it mean to love in this way? Is it love to hold our tongues or to be silent if we do not ‘have anything nice to say’? Why are we so focused on being nice anyway? Well, perhaps self-preservation plays a part here.
How we are seen by others has become ridiculously important – influencing our job opportunities, relationships and general life. Some play this to win, others just play the moment, others play as true to self as possible. Who is right? Whose approach should be the norm?
We have set ourselves an unattainable goal – to be true to God and ourselves and to social norms. Firstly, we don’t make enough time for God (in general) so how often do we get to know God, secondly, we don’t take the time to really learn about ourselves within (ignoring the exterior noise that we react to) so how can we be true to a self we do not understand, and thirdly, social norms are fleeting, hard to hold this up when it is likely to change tomorrow. It is unlikely that all three sit in the same sphere at any given moment in time in this ever-increasingly secular arena.
Think, for a second, of the last conversation you had with someone who aligned with your beliefs and you could speak with unabashed honesty and did not fear a social or personal repercussion if they did not agree? How liberating was it? In a way, we need to connect to those people to help us continue to shut out the noise of society and the busyness of daily life so we can hear the still quiet voice of God. We need God in our hearts and minds today more than ever.
Why are we not free to be honest? Freedom is so important to our world and yet whilst we are free (in some regards) we are not free holistically. What would happen if we spoke with honesty instead of politics and socially minded comments designed to place us favourably? I for one would love to see a world where our first thought was to speak truth.